Join me as I share insights from animals in spirit and physical form, and from my own lessons learned as an intuitive.  Having trekked this path for decades my vision is to help you learn how to hone your intuitive gifts, create healthy energy boundaries and communicate with animals through private mentoring and workshops.

I don’t talk to Animals

by Wendy Wolfe on September 19, 2017

For years I’ve described my work as “animal communication” and when people ask what that means I often, for the sake of brevity say, “I talk to animals”.  I even use the clever phrase “Can We Talk?” with a cute photo of Hanna on the cover of a brochure.  The truth is, I don’t “talk” to animals.  None of us do in the way you and I talk to each other. 

What I can say is, I connect energetically with animals and in doing so, information about how the animal feels physically and emotionally comes to me.  Their attitudes towards people, food, medicines, other animals and tasks in their lives come through in feelings…not words.  Where they hurt, the level of pain or strong emotions is felt in my own body as I connect because I’m a highly sensitive empath.  My human brain translates the feelings into words.  The words “said” by the animal, are really my translation of the feelings and images I receive when energetically connected to an animal.

Here’s a good example of the “translating” that happens.  Many years ago when I was just starting to communicate, I was confused by conflicting advice on what to do for my horse Smokey’s hooves.  His early years on the show circuit in Tennessee had created serious hoof problems for him.  One day after advice from the farrier, I said to Smokey, “I don’t know what you need.  Please tell me what you need.”  Clear as day I heard “Get the f**king shoes off and lower the heels”.  Now, really, did Smokey know the “f” word?  I don’t think so.  BUT, the emotion and the intention of what he felt was best for him came through loud and clear.  I followed his advice and he has done well for 20+ years.  And knowing Smokey as well as I do, he would definitely use the “f” word if he knew it.  He would use it often.

Animal Communication is a two-way connection and I can transmit information as well as receive it.  Frequently, I use images (sent through energy from me to the animal) to help them understand behavior we humans need from them.  I receive images back, apparently from the animal.  What happens between the animal and me (or others) is not clearly understood by anyone.  Rupert Sheldrake has conducted studies which tell us animals seem to be connected to us energetically or telepathically as there is no other explanation for how they know when their owners are returning home.  He wrote about it in his book: Dogs that know when Their Owners are Coming Home.  My best explanation is that we have access to all information in the “collective consciousness” and by tapping into it, we can “know” anything.  Even though I may believe I understand how communication works, no one knows for absolute certain (at least until they go poof).  The more we stay open to what we don’t know and remain curious, the more we allow truth to enter our experience.

There have been many times when my exchange with an animal feels like a conversation with another human.  This makes the “animals don’t actually talk” piece challenging.  Why this happens sometimes and not always is beyond me…and anyone else.  I don’t feel compelled to know “why”.  I am content with the understanding that occurs between the animal and me.  The results speak the only truth I need.

Here’s a recent example of “results”.   Following is a note I received from a client after working with her dog about chasing cars in the driveway, grief at the loss of his “dad” and counter surfing.

“Thank you SO MUCH for connecting with my kids. OH WHAT A DIFFERENCE  it has made. Cruiser seems less depressed, and a little more comfortable with the recent changes. Cruiser has not taken ANYTHING off any flat surface since your conversation! More importantly, my boy has not chased ANY car. UPS came yesterday & the disposal truck came today (to empty the dumpster). Both are large vehicles.  In the past, that was breath takingly frightening to me. Cruiser sat by the garage, & barked at them. He is also sleeping in the bedroom with me.  HUGE SUCCESS      HUGE RELIEF      HUGE THANK YOU”

During our “conversation”, I sent Cruiser a picture of him sitting next to the garage when a vehicle came in the driveway.  I also sent him the feeling of people (especially his human mommy) being pleased with him.  Clearly, Cruiser got the message.

Having done this work professionally since 2000, I wouldn’t still be making a living at it if people weren’t getting results.  Of course, it doesn’t always turn out this successful, and yet it often does.  (And sometimes they change their behavior for 6 months to a year and then revert back, typically because a new stressor has been added to their lives).  While I don’t have a definitive answer (scientifically) of how this works, I do understand what is necessary to “communicate” successfully.

My cat Red, provided me some insight.  You see, Red is one of those animals who is exceptional at understanding my intention and meaning.  So much so I can literally “talk to him”, out loud as if I were talking to a human and he seems to understand.  Several years ago, a large family of moles had taken up residence at the farm.  They were digging long trenches in the portion of yard near the house.  Out loud, as if speaking to a person, I said to him, “Red, you need to help out here.  These moles are ruining the yard, please do something about it.”  Within 20 minutes, a mole was lying dead on the deck where I had just recently “talked” to Red.  Fast forward a few months.  The mole issue which improved after I spoke to Red was once again getting out of hand.  Now they were attacking the garden.  I “spoke” to Red, and said “The moles are a problem again.  You need to do your job and take care of them.  We depend on you.”  About 30 minutes later, several of us were sitting near the horse paddock.  I could see something in the lane out to the pasture.  It was Red, but what was he doing?  As Red got closer, it became evident he was “herding” a mole towards us.  When he got right in front of us, the mole jumped at Red’s face, attacking him.  Red looked right at me as if to say “This is not easy work”.  These moles FIGHT BACK.  And so, Red was able to “tell me” why his job was challenging. 

As I said, Red is an exceptional communicator.  What was working here was my intention to convey my thoughts to him and his receptivity.  As I teach in my classes, intention is very powerful  especially when done in a state of heart coherence, something I’ve practiced for 15 years.  Other important aspects to communicating effectively include, setting aside assumptions, allowing images and feelings to come through, staying out of your left analytical brain, and trusting what you get.  Meditating on a regular basis is key to all the above.  Exercising the right side of your brain through creative activities such as art, writing, music, etc, also helps.

Whatever you decide to call what I do with animals, I am sure the relationship between the animal and person benefits.  Most who take my classes don’t intend to be professional animal communicators (I never did), they just want to understand their furry and feathered friends more clearly.  In the end, whether we are talking, communicating, or whatever, doesn’t matter.  It only matters that we work to understand their needs so we can provide a safe, healthy and interesting life for our companions.

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Healthy Boundaries

by Wendy Wolfe on March 1, 2017

Whatever you are willing to put up with is exactly what you will have. Anonymous

If you find yourself giving too much, always trying to make peace among others, people pleasing, taking on other people’s problems, feeling resentful or taking things personally, you likely have weak energetic and personal boundaries.

Once upon a time, I was a bit of a door mat. I couldn’t say no or disagree with someone. I was a chameleon, becoming like whomever I was with to blend in. I didn’t understand my empathic abilities nor could I separate myself from those close to me. If you know me at all, you know this is no longer true. I learned to shore up my boundaries and one of my best teachers was my mare Mariah. My dogs have been great teachers too. Often, our best teachers of boundaries are animals. I’ll share more about the animals later in the article.

What are boundaries?

An energetic boundary is where our “energy body” ends. While the term “end” is a bit of a misnomer because all energy is connected, we do have an electromagnetic energy field that is “ours” while we are in a physical body. Because we are in control of our energy (consciously or not), we set our “boundaries”.

Personal boundaries are what we decide we are willing to accept in behavior from others. This isn’t about them, it’s about decisions we make, again consciously or not, about what we will do in response to another’s action. For example, I have a boundary around discussing politics with my mother. She has been informed. If she brings up politics, I leave. No drama, no arguing, I’ve stated I will not discuss politics. Because she is older and forgetful, I might remind her of our agreement and if she then changes the subject, I can choose to stay. This is a clear personal boundary. I’m not saying she can’t have the political views she has, I’m not saying she can’t discuss them, but I am clear that if she does, I will leave (or hang up).

Setting appropriate boundaries is often challenging for highly sensitive empaths and especially for those who grew up in dysfunctional families. From an early age our personal and energetic boundaries are often violated. We live in a culture where this is not only acceptable but considered appropriate. In our attempts to raise “good kids”, we violate their boundaries.

We tell children to hug someone even when they are not comfortable with it. They learn someone else’s comfort is more important than theirs which underpins feelings of unworthiness. Making children feel responsible for another’s feelings is a way we discourage healthy boundaries. Think about how many times you were told “Don’t make me (or your sister, daddy, mommy), sad, mad, etc.” OR, “You made her sad”, when really, it was the other person’s choice to be sad. It wasn’t the child’s fault.

We turn children into people pleasers at the expense of their own beautiful selves. They learn it’s more important to make others feel good or avoid confrontation than to speak their truth. They learn to hide who they really are so others will like them; so they can feel good about themselves. And they grow into adults who feel their worth is dependent upon how they please others. We think we are teaching them to be considerate of others but we are not.

Of course we want our children to grow up with empathy for others but when we ask them to ignore their own voice to please another, we create children who feel less than. When we teach them to put others before themselves this way it teaches them they are not enough. Recognizing we are all created equal and all deserve love can’t be taught this way. If we first teach children they are responsible for their own feelings and have a right to their feelings, a healthy sense of self and boundaries can grow. They can be taught their actions have consequences and affect others without shaming or diminishing their value.

Children will naturally have empathy for others when they are allowed empathy for themselves.

With healthy boundaries, people take responsibility for their own feelings. No one else is required to take care of them emotionally. They learn to trust their feelings and their inner knowing. As a result, they have much more to give to others. They don’t continually sacrifice their needs for others so they don’t feel resentful or angry. They walk in the world whole, happy and able to give love easily.

When we have weak energetic boundaries, it makes it that much more difficult to have strong personal boundaries. The two work together. As highly sensitive empaths, we are especially attuned to energy. When we let people violate our energetic boundaries, we let them deplete our energy. When we attach our energy to others through energy cords (mostly unconsciously), we have given up our energy boundaries and weakened our personal boundaries. We have become enmeshed with another. If you are bound to someone energetically through cords, it will be more difficult to speak your truth and maintain personal boundaries.

Being enmeshed with others is so ingrained in our lives, we don’t recognize when our boundaries are being violated (or that we are violating others). What we do recognize is a feeling of resentment, anxiety, depression and a need to isolate ourselves from others. When we don’t separate ourselves from others energetically or stand up for ourselves, we lose touch with who we are. We become who others would have us be. It’s a very insidious loss of self.

Our loss of energetic boundaries, like our loss of personal boundaries, began in childhood. Parents and other adults often take energy from children through abuse, over-protection and living their life through the child. This is not a conscious action but something they too learned as a child. We learn our “energy habits” unconsciously as children. Fortunately, we can unlearn these habits and develop healthy boundaries.

How can we strengthen our energetic boundaries?

The first step is to become aware of your own energy habits and how you currently use your energy field. This is where our animals become great teachers. Animals, especially horses, but also dogs, cats, and birds, will reflect to us the state of our energy and emotions.

Mariah has been my best teacher because she demands I be grounded, with my energy “intact” when I am around her. She also insists I be present. If my energy attaches to hers, I get a glare. When the farrier is working on her, I must be present or she will walk off. When I’m completely present with my energy intact (and strong), she stands quiet and cooperative. If I am unknowingly repressing an emotion, she will display it. And let’s face it, anger, frustration, resentment or sadness are usually the only emotions we tend to repress. I doubt I’ve ever repressed joy. Mariah shows me clearly what I am doing with my energy and emotions.

Our dogs and cats will do the same. Walking a dog when you are fearful, whether you are conscious of this or not, will likely result in an anxious dog who barks at everything. You can get similar reactions when your energy is weakened because of energy cords or Hitchhikers. Look to your animal companions for clues on your energy body.

Grounding your energy stabilizes your boundaries. Because our energy is controlled by our thoughts and visualization, grounding can be simple and quick. This simple two step process will enforce your boundaries and give you strength.

Quick Energy Boundary Builder

  1. Bring your attention to your body. Feel into all parts of your body. This attention brings your energy back into you.
  2. Imagine you have roots growing out of the bottoms of your feet and see these roots go deep into the earth. I like to feel them wrap around the core of the earth.

You can also learn more about how to work with your energy by downloading my free Energy Mastery Workbook and Guided Meditation, by providing your name and email on the right hand side of this page.

Questions? Feel free to ask in the comments.

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