Join me as I share insights from animals in spirit and physical form, and from my own lessons learned as an intuitive.  Having trekked this path for decades my vision is to help you learn how to hone your intuitive gifts, create healthy energy boundaries and communicate with animals through private mentoring and workshops.

Is this Monster Hiding Within?

by Wendy Wolfe on August 17, 2018

It’s easy for us to think of our job, finances, health, etc as causes for our anxiety. It might surprise you to learn the most significant factor in creating anxiety actually comes from within. It’s the critical voice we hear between our ears; our Inner Critic. Studies link negative self talk to anxiety, depression and low self esteem.Beware the monster in your head

Where did this critic come from? As children we internalize what we observe and hear from others. We’re absorbing ideas and words before we have the capacity to discriminate truth from fiction (or other peoples crap). As children we are also completely dependent upon the adults who care for us. We have a survival instinct to please the caregivers so we can be housed and fed. In our innocent minds it’s easy for us to internalize criticisms, teasing or protective instructions we hear and take them to heart. Our child mind develops this inner voice to be vigilant to our behavior so we can please those around us and in return be cared for. This isn’t to blame parents, teachers, clergy, etc. Though some might justifiably be to blame, it won’t help us at this point. Most of them are merely repeating what they were told as children and what they still hear from their inner critic.

Unfortunately, we can learn early in life how we don’t measure up…that we need to do something special or be different than we are in order to be okay. We believe our survival depends on “doing right” or pleasing and our inner critic is born. For those who experienced abuse, the anxiety is intensified because not “doing right” resulted in harm. For all of us, the inner critic is connected to a survival instinct which can trigger anxiety.

Our flight or fight system can’t tell the difference from real or perceived threats so our constant internal belittling feels like a real threat. When you start beating yourself up, it often triggers the same biological responses you would experience if you almost hit another car (or any other scary event). Your adrenal cortex automatically releases stress hormones, your heart automatically beats faster, your breathing automatically becomes faster, your thyroid gland automatically increases your metabolism, and your larger muscles automatically receive more oxygenated blood. What you will notice is your body is having an automatic response to this perceived threat (your inner critic) even though it’s not a true threat.

Being attacked from inside by your inner critic is like having a monster locked in the room with you. It can add substantially to your experience of anxiety.

You’ll hear the monster say:

Why do I always make such a fool of myself?

Why did I blurt that out?

I’m so fat, I look terrible in this.

I always screw up the important stuff.

But she might not be so blunt. Some of the monsters are a little craftier. They sound like this:

She always looks so good; I wish I could be more like her.

I don’t fit in here.

She’s just being nice to me…she doesn’t really like me.

I need to be better/different/anything other than what I am.

So how do we open the door and get the monster out of the room?

Quieting Your Inner Critic

  • First, become conscious of the attacks you are making on yourself so you can change the dialog and become more gentle and compassionate. If you don’t notice them you can’t re-frame them. A meditation practice can increase your awareness.
  • If you’re feeling anxiety, stop and recall your recent thoughts. Have you been criticizing yourself? Do you sense shame or guilt?
  • Re-frame the thoughts in your head. Picture yourself at 3 or 4 years old. Imagine this child saying these things to herself. What would you say to her? Tell her the comforting words she needs to hear.
  • When giving yourself a pep talk or saying comforting things, use your name or the pronoun “you”. Studies show it is more effective at calming and bolstering you. “You can finish this blog, Wendy, you’re a good writer”.  😀
  • Eliminate the word “should” from your vocabulary. Replace it with “get to” where possible.  “I should go for a walk” becomes  “I get to go for a walk”.
  • Embrace the word “yet”. I haven’t got the job I want…YET. Your words are powerful. Speak what you desire and intend, not what you don’t have.
  • Ask yourself: If my best friend said this out loud to herself, what would I say to her? Be your own best friend.
  • Keep in mind your Inner Critic is trying to protect you; she’s just not effective. Help her by enlisting her help. You can dialog with this voice and let her know what she is saying isn’t true or helpful. Do this gently, as if you are conversing with a young child. Then ask her to support you by reminding you of what you do right. This may seem a bit bizarre but it actually works.

In the whole evolution of humans we’re much like a toddler just learning to walk. When a toddler is learning to walk they often stumble and fall. You wouldn’t tell them they were stupid or worthless would you?

We are all in this life to learn. We deserve the same consideration and affection a toddler does.

The next time you fall, say “oops”, grab the coffee table and congratulate yourself as you pull your body up one more time.

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Correcting Rumors

by Wendy Wolfe on November 16, 2017

Apparently there’s fake news circulating about me. Today, I’m setting the record straight and sharing what I’ll be up to in the near future.

There’s a rumor that I am no longer communicating with animals. Not true. I still do readings and it’s simple enough to schedule a session on my website. I won’t be traveling to venues to do mass readings nor doing any type of “fairs”. Though I will continue to do readings, I won’t be promoting that aspect of my business.

Here’s what you can expect in the future.

Classes:
I am holding an Animal Communication Practicum (half day of communication practice) for anyone who has taken Animal Communication Level 1 with me. The class is December 2nd in Amherst, WI and I have one spot available ($50). After this class, I will not be offering the practicum again.

I’m considering offering one more Animal Communication Level 1 class but that will likely be the last, ever. Not just this year.

As soon as my book is in print (first of 2018), I will be teaching the content of the book. The Fractured Phoenix, Gifts from a Broken Childhood, is about the relationship between early childhood trauma and enhanced intuitive/psychic gifts. And “childhood trauma” doesn’t necessarily mean sexual or physical abuse. We now understand that anxious parents, depressed parents, premature birth, illness, and many other ways in which an infant (or fetus) is neglected or subjected to stress can create an exceptionally sensitive, energy feeling, intuitive person. The book is part memoir, part “how to” for healing, managing being sensitive, and embracing your intuitive gifts.

Coaching:
I will continue to offer coaching/mentoring to support highly sensitive women and women who experienced early childhood trauma. My coaching supports you with energy management, emotional evolution, intuition development (including animal communication) and mindset training. Coaching is always tailored to your specific needs. You can schedule time to talk about this with me (no charge).

I also offer a couple of other opportunities to work with me one-on-one for specific issues you might be facing. A Ruby Slippers Session is a coaching session with added support and a personal intuitive reading by me. You can get support for a decision that you’re struggling with by signing up for a Soul Quest Session.

Blog:
Going forward my articles will focus more on the content of my book though I may occasionally throw in something on animal wellness as it’s hard to get me off that soap box.

I’m very excited about the book and the work it will bring forth. I intend to speak to groups of therapists, social workers and those who have experienced trauma. This has been a long time coming and my Soul is jumping for joy.

I’m so very grateful you have been on this journey with me.

Thank you for your support.

 

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Reincarnation, Yes, they come back

November 2, 2017

I’ve written before about my personal experience with reincarnation.  My dog Tiger died unexpectedly at 11 yrs. old and then returned eight months later as Doc.  Tiger taught me a great deal about transitioning to spirit, hanging out with me when he was gone and then allowing me to experience him coming back in a […]

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I don’t talk to Animals

September 19, 2017

For years I’ve described my work as “animal communication” and when people ask what that means I often, for the sake of brevity say, “I talk to animals”.  I even use the clever phrase “Can We Talk?” with a cute photo of Hanna on the cover of a brochure.  The truth is, I don’t “talk” […]

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Healthy Boundaries

March 1, 2017

Whatever you are willing to put up with is exactly what you will have. Anonymous If you find yourself giving too much, always trying to make peace among others, people pleasing, taking on other people’s problems, feeling resentful or taking things personally, you likely have weak energetic and personal boundaries. Once upon a time, I […]

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Let’s Be Proactive

February 2, 2017

It’s not unusual for people to contact me when their beloved animal companion is in the last stages of life.  Many times, it’s days or hours away.  Knowing at what point the suffering is greater than the quality of life can be difficult.  I’m grateful I can help with this decision.  It’s important to understand how […]

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Tapping Your Power Place

December 31, 2016

Here’s a powerful energy technique to support you as you enter 2017, a year of new beginnings. As I’ve shared before, we manage our energy by focusing our thoughts and intentions because energy follows thought.  This is how I connect with animals anywhere in the world (or in Spirit).  I’ve honed my focus so my […]

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Energy Hitch Hikers

December 14, 2016

Have you ever experienced a time when you were struggling with the trials of life and couldn’t catch a break?  Maybe you felt you were treading water and unable to move forward.  We all have those stretches of time when we are challenged with multiple stressors.  If you can’t seem to move past the stress, something else […]

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The Sanctuary for Sensitive Souls

October 28, 2016

Do you ever feel overwhelmed by emotions that seem to come out of nowhere? Do you feel “drained” after being with certain people? Do you feel a strong connection to animals? Do you “know” when others are being untruthful? Are you tired of dealing with anxiety and depression? Do you “feel” others physical or emotional […]

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Love, Healing and Prayers

June 29, 2016

King was only 10 weeks old when the seizures started.  This tiny toy poodle of two and a half pounds had already worked his way into my heart.   I recognized the flailing legs and odd body contortions as a seizure having lived through it before with my dog Boo Boo.  I began calling all the […]

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