Who’s driving your bus? Are you driving or are you being driven by instincts that served you 150,000 years ago? Studies of the brain show instinctively we’re Debbie Downer (no offense to any Debbie). Our brains have a negativity bias.  Negative experiences are more important to the brain and make deeper and more lasting impressions than positive experiences.  When our ancestors were hanging out in the Serengeti it was important for our brain to remember not to play with lions. As evolving … [Read more...]

Opening the shower curtain a hairy spider at least an inch across clings to the acrylic tub. Yikes.  “Go away, where I can’t see you”.  “You can be here, but I don’t want to see you”. Realizing he has nowhere to go, I take some tissue and smoosh him.  I say an apology and toss him in the toilet Flush. He doesn't go down. Flush. Damn he’s still there. Flush.  Flush.  Flush. Finally.  He’s gone. Shower and forget. Several hours later…sitting at my desk, staring at my monitor…working on my … [Read more...]

Are your emotions blocking your Energy? Energy is not limited, it’s an infinite resource which I wrote about  here.  Yet often we feel as if our energy is limited.  Life can feel hard or tiresome. If energy isn't limited why does it sometimes feel that way? Feeling as if you have little energy is about your ability to be open and receptive.  When energy isn't allowed to flow through you...when your energy is blocked...it feels as if you have no energy.  You often feel tired, physically out of … [Read more...]

Have you ever found yourself being terrified of a task in front of you? The kind of fear that has your body trembling uncontrollably? It happened to me about 11 years ago and I'm sharing this story today to show you how you can go from terrified to terrific using a few energy tips. The back story:  I was attending a leadership training workshop in California.  Think the Landmark Forum on steroids.  If you’re not familiar with Landmark, imagine the toughest athletic coaches you’ve ever seen. … [Read more...]

Last week I was standing alone at a counter to order dinner; the attendant back in the kitchen.  A few minutes later two young women walked up to the counter and stood alongside me, checking out the menu.  When the attendant came out from the kitchen he looked at the two women and asked for their order.  Without hesitation they proceeded to give him their order as if they had no clue I was waiting there first.  I looked at them and realized  “I am invisible”.  Okay, not invisible enough to … [Read more...]