Energy Cord Lessons from Mother Elephant

Have you ever felt like you couldn’t get someone out of your head?  Maybe it’s an ex, boss or family member.  You have continual conversations in your head which make you feel sad, angry, depressed, or anxious.  When this happens it’s a pretty good sign that you and this person have an unhealthy energetic attachment through what’s referred to as an “energy cord”.

I had one of these head conversations and it was driving me nuts.  I decided to get quiet to learn about it.  Five minutes into my meditation, a saw a mother elephant with her calf.  The calf was hanging onto the mother’s tail with her trunk.  The mother elephant began talking to me.  She explained that she was connected to her calf not only by the tail and trunk but by an energy cord that ran between their root chakras. (Chakras are energy centers in our bodies and the bodies of animals).

Mother elephant:  We are connected this way so my calf can feel safe in the world.  My energy, my strength feeds her now while she is young and developing her own sense of safety.  When she is older, this energy cord will become much smaller and will be gently attached to my field.   It will no longer be this thick cord.  All of the other elephants in my herd are gently connected to me and me to them this way.  It is how we know when one is in trouble even if they are very far away.  It is only when they are very young that there is such a thick cord.  If an elephant is orphaned, another mother will come and connect to that calf so he learns to feel safe in the world.  This is true for most animals.  When allowed to develop a sense of security this way they learn to live happily without the big cord.  Sometimes, animals do not receive this sense of security and can experience more difficulties with fear and anxiety, but it is not common.

We (the animals) have observed humans have more difficulties with this.  We see your energy.  We see all sorts of heavy cords to other people and even to your politics and TV.  What was intended to be a source of spiritual nourishment and support has become draining and sometimes harmful.

Wendy: So how do we release these cords?  Should we cut them as many energy workers have advised?

Mother Elephant: Your goal is not to be disconnected from others but to be self contained in your own strength and beauty.  This way you don’t feed off others.  You can be gently connected without heavy draining cords.

Wendy: But what about those that feed off of us?  I have read about when others attach to us and can drain our energy.  I have experienced this as well.

Mother Elephant: Yes, but this can only happen with your permission.  Even if you are not conscious of it, there is a part of you that believes something is gained from this attachment or it could not happen. You must look deep inside yourself with honest compassion and find the part of you that is holding on.  Often there are beliefs held in your subconscious that keep you corded together.  Once you discover this belief, you can acknowledge it and let it go.  Then you can transform that thick dysfunctional cord into a light energy cord of love and gratitude.

This made so much more sense to me than the cutting cord exercises I had learned about over the years.  I decided to give it a try.  I felt into the person and our relationship and I discovered how I was holding on.  I found a very scared part of me that needed to know that I could take care of her.  I felt my frustration and anger towards the other person dissolve into nothingness like a soap bubble into the air.  I reassured that little part that she was safe.  I could feel my entire energy body shift from tense and tight to open and filled with loving light.

This is a very important lesson for a highly sensitive empath.  We are naturally more sensitive to the energy of other beings.  We can become physically and emotionally toxic with unhealthy attachments but “cutting cords” may not be the answer.  By using this method taught to me by Mother Elephant, we can take responsibility for our connection to the cord and release it.

Next time you find yourself obsessing or feeling drained by another consider that you have an energy cord.  Look within to discover where you are holding on.  What belief are you carrying? Nurture and reassure that part of you, be honest but gentle.  Release your hold on that cord and allow it to dissolve.  See it transform from its heavy structure to a thin strand of light that just touches the perimeter of your energy field.

Let me know what you discover.